“Contrary to most people I don’t go out to meet people, I go out to be alone. My husband thinks it’s troubling. I think it’s a sign of great intelligence🙄.”
Me and dear husband we get along quite well but the longer we’ve been together, the more I realize how different we are on a lot of things. At first look I’d say I am an introvert and my husband is an extrovert. He likes being around people and I am more into pointed interactions (My husband says it’s a nice way of saying “I am antisocial”). Consequently finding a common ground can be quite challenging and makes for very interesting interactions…
Exhibit A: Me getting ready to go out on a Saturday morning.
Dear husband: “You’re going out to meet a friend? Cool!”
Me: “No, not really.”
DH: “Why not? Call a friend or something…”
Me: “Why? I just want to be alone”.
DH: “Why go out then? Just lock yourself up in the basement and you’ll be all alone”.
Me: “No, I won’t. Because you’ll come knocking and bug me.”
DH: ” I am not sure how I should take this….”
Me: “Plus, unlike you I don’t need people to enjoy myself!”
DH: “Yeah..and that’s the scary part.”
Feeling like an alien, I then proceed to try and justify my behavior.
Me: “Well, I guess it’s a way of being social without having to interact with people…”
DH: “Not sure if you realize it but being social sort of implies having actual interactions with people.”
Exhibit B: Dear husband comes home all excited because he and some friends have planned some kind of couple outing.
Dear husband: “We’ve been invited!”
Me: “But why? Who did that?”
DH: “You’re saying it like somebody committed a crime or something?”
The last time we had that same discussion, he won so I remained silent.
DH: “Ok, you’re clearly not excited about the prospect. How about we invite them here?”
I don’t answer. I look as overwhelmed as a new mom who’s just given birth to quadruplets.
Me: “It’s gonna be worse! We’re gonna have to be nice and let them stay for however long they want…”
DH: “Well, you could try throwing them out…”
Me: “That would be one way of making sure they don’t come back….”
DH: “!!!??????” Clear signs of system failure showing on his face…🤯
I am not gonna lie, being an introvert comes with its own sets of blessings and challenges. I sometimes think I’ll end up as an old insufferable cat lady who spends her time mumbling to herself😂￼. What about you dear readers? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? What do you find most challenging? Please share! Gros bisoux and talk soon!🐍😋
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