Happy New Year to all my readers and followers. I wish all of you success, health and happiness. I thank you for all the likes and follows. You guys are the reason I keep on writing!
I was about to do the usual New Year resolution post when dear husband mentioned that 2020 will be the beginning of a new decade. That gave me pause and forced me to realize that 10 years have just gone by. Can’t say I am wiser but I am definitely older.
If you think a lot can happen in one year. Think about what can happen in 10. Life can change drastically in 10 years. Let’s see what happened in my case. What are the highlights of the past 10 years:
I met my now husband. You can read all about our first outing here: My first time…First dates and the lies we tell
We Bought a home
Got married. You can read about the highs and lows here: THE MELTDOWNS
Going on our fifth year together (Surprise! I haven’t killed Mr. foot in mouth!!)
A few thoughts that have been on my mind for the past decade….
Find a career you won’t want to retire from
I think you’re out of your mind if you keep taking jobs that you don’t like because you think it will look good in your resume. Isn’t that a little like saving up sex for your old age?
Considering the way the world is going right now, most of us may have to drop dead before we’re able to retire so the real goal is to find an occupation we can happily drop dead in. The way to do that is to cultivate our interests. Not all of them will necessary lead to something but some of them may surprisingly end up as side hustles.
Not all changes are painful
Sometimes we’ve been so used to the struggle we automatically assume every change is going to be painful. The thing is change is like old age, it comes for everybody no matter how talented you get at avoiding it. When the time comes, the change will find us wherever we are.
Your life may be someone’s dream life so don’t knock it!
I can assure you: Someone somewhere is dreaming of a life just like the one you have right now. Nobody’s truly happy every second of the way no matter how happy they look on Instagram. Nobody’s got it all. Sometimes we look at someone who looks like they have the perfect career, perfect husband topped with perfect children only to learn they left with the neighbor a few years down the road. Somebody whom you think have it all is probably looking at you green with envy thinking the same thing.
Don’t squander time, invest it only in people and things that matter
When you’re winning at something, you’re probably losing at something else. When you’re successful in one area of your life, the time you’re allocating to that specific area of your life is probably taking time away from another area of your life. So don’t squander time, invest it in people and things that truly matter to you. The answer would be to figure out what’s the most important to you and stick to it. How? Personally I try to picture myself on my death bed and think about the main regrets I would have. It really helps me to streamline my wants and aspirations to pull out the ones that really matters. Surprisingly, the answers are not the ones I was expecting.
Things don’t get easy just because you’ve found your passion.
Do what you love but be prepared to find excruciating, backbreaking, limb-shattering hard work hiding behind it. There is lot of what you hate hiding behind what you love. So the lesson is you can’t escape hard work no matter how much you love what you do.
To this year and many more dear readers! Gros Bisoux and a Happy New Year 2020!